Take the time to listen to each other, understand his remarks before responding: communication in Mindfulness invite to take the talk time to defuse conflicts before they emerge.
Benevolence, which hatches so like a flower within each of our meditations, leads us naturally to grow another type of communication with our surroundings, without desire to harm, assaulting or shut by taking refuge in a helpless silence.
Learning to listen to each other without interrupting or judge him, with his heart and a deep empathy, it is possible to establish with him a new relationship of trust and Exchange, peer to peer.
This does not mean that we are going to let us invade or contaminate our emotions. On the contrary: Mindfulness teaches benevolent resonate with his neighbor, seeking to understand, without getting carried away by the flood of emotions. It is what is called a controlled empathy, by learning at the same time to get in position ‘meta’, slightly remote to be able to analyze what is happening, the non-verbal of his interlocutor, to better decode what he feels, lives and wants deeply. In my turn, I can then provide my own feelings, and try to rephrase his remarks to see if I understood it, to initiate a dialogue.
It is usually the beginning of what is called non-violent communication, yet another possible facet of the mindfulness that follows logically.
How to interpret this vast space which unfolds gradually from, and through meditation? Everything happens as if the peace achieved through meditation allowed to absorb usually agitated States of consciousness, in a ground state originally peaceful and benevolent.
Or, by using the analogy with quantum physics: everything happens as if meditation could reach an underlying energy empty, under the usual consciousness excited States, a fundamental quantum field that proves at the same time be a song of joy opened to the world, the cosmos and others, come sometimes disturb micro-excitations at the source of new disturbances sensations, thoughts or other stimuli…
This article is excerpted from the book practice mindfulness and meditation in 7 steps by Christian Müller, published by youth.
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